I recently saw an interview with Elizabeth Edwards..wife of former North Carolina Senator John Edwards..however on her way to being former wife. The topic was the infidelity by John and the struggles and fallout. With all the issues in Mrs Edwards life, history of cancer and the infidelity ordeal, I sincerely sympathize and empathize with her. She's a very strong woman who basically took a knife in the back from Johnny boy. Infidelity is a serious issue. You lose faith and trust with your significant other. It creates all kinds of problems. Nuff said. HOWEVER, one of the things that Elizabeth called John..and what some other woman have called their spouses who do the deed..is MONSTER. No..No..No. I've got this thing with the media and america, and how they exaggerate issues. Its a peeve when I hear someone say.."you ALWAYS do that!" or "you NEVER do this!" Infidelity is a very common thing in america. But to label these people as MONSTERS..that's a little excessive.
Don't get me wrong..John Edwards is the Charlie Sheen of politics. John is a sleazy character..which is a prerequisite for a politician. Good ole karma will come into play..and Johnny Boy will get his. Trust me..been there done that. But to use the term 'monster'? No. Nor, are most men who do the infidelity thing. America needs to get a grip about infidelity. Saddam Hussein was a monster. Chemical Ali was a monster. Ted Bundy was a monster. Infidelity is about middle-age men being horny..not monsters.
I'd like to know what you think..
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tis true...not a monster by a long shot. problem i have is the american pysche is so out of whack with reality in this vein. people are continuously overloaded with sexual imagery via advertising etc. and then when people react on it, they become a monster? i believe in the sanctity of a union between two people and if you want to wander then by all means do so, but then don't delude yourself into thinking you can have a happy, healthy monogynous relationship at the same time.
ReplyDeleteNo argument from me. I can think of a lot of other terms for those who cheat on someone. Having been a victim of this, I have quite the colorful list. But unless there is a physical knife in the back of the person who has been cheated on, "monster" is an excessive and sensationalistic term.
ReplyDeleteI'd add, that when it's used by the victim, it's more than likely the hurt talking.
ReplyDeleteAgain, as I have said in a few other blogs of yours, the media fuels the mess that people make of their lives. I have my own plethora of skeletons in my closet…so to pass judgment on the mistakes of others, would throw me in the class of said media. However sinister actions of human beings may be..labeling people on the basis of morality is wrong.
ReplyDeleteInfidelity is a crime of the heart…while life destroying it may be, it does not categorize someone as a monster. Does being addicted to drugs, alcohol or gambling make a person a monster, maybe, but probably more life destroying than infidelity? No, what do we as humans do, we feel sorry for the person..try to help them..it’s an Addiction. Why is it no surprise that once a person is found to be “cheating” we so quickly have attached Sexual addiction as the cause. It allows us to turn from the ‘monster’ label to the ‘victim’ label. Back to the morality of it all…it’s easier to accept someone who is a Victim, and move on, as a people.
Personally, I feel that, as I have said before, we are not living these peoples lives, we are only watching from the sidelines and feeding on whatever we are told. Moral indiscretions between other people are not mine to feed upon, it is a meal best left to those who bought the food.