Kevin Hale/Hale Yeah Press Conference..

Greetings to the HALE'S ANGELS.  Hope everyone is doing well.  This next blog has been in the making for a few weeks.  With all the posts that I do on my wall..and my blogs..I'll get responses or questions that I generally find enlightening and/or entertaining.  Sometimes, I'll get asked the same questions and answer accordingly. Sometimes the same question gets a different answer based on the moment.  However I got to thinking.  What if I held a press conference and answered some of your questions?!?!?!?  So...this blog is going to be, what I think, a transcript of a presser that I would hold for the "media". 

This is not an ego thing..its strictly for entertainment purposes.  However, the questions will be ones that have been recently asked of me...and the answers will be honest and sincere.

K..lets have some fun.


Narrator: 

OK..Kevin Hale is approaching the podium..and is about ready to take questions from the media.  Kevin is also the author of the HALE YEAH Blog.  He's getting situated..and I think we're about ready to begin.

Kevin:

Thank you ladies and gentlemen for attending this impromptu press conference.  I wanted to take the time to answer some of your questions..and hopefully clear the air on a few issues.  Again, thank you for your time.  Lets begin..

Lady sitting in the front row to my left:

Kevin, thanks for taking the time to do this..and for letting me attend.  My first of two questions...why did you start the blog thing?

Kevin:

Good question.  Really, it was about me purging my mind.  I think I have an opinion or idea about most things..and the blog thing is just a way to express myself..in a serious or some type of humorous way..just getting my thoughts across.  In no way do I mean to harm or offend..however, if I do, then so be it.  For the most part..I'm trying to connect with people and hopefully get them to open their mind and think outside the box.  

Same lady sitting in the front row to my left:

Second question..what are you getting out of this?

Kevin:

I don't think I'm really trying to, per se, get anything out of it.  Maybe its the notion that i've connected with someone..and/or simply make them look at things in a different way.  There are times when I'll get feedback that a blog moved them emotionally..whether its laughter or tears.  Thats powerful!  If I can move one's emotions..then I'm flattered..and glad that I wrote the blog.  Next question...you, the gentleman to my right.

Gentleman sitting in the front row to my right:

Its my understanding that no question would be all limits...so here's mine.  Are you gay?

Kevin:

Ha..thought that one would come up.  I've been asked a few times online..so I guess I'll clear the air once and for all.  No..I'm not gay.  Not now..not then..not later.  I'm as straight as an arrow.  Just because I have a soft voice..and soft skin doesn't mean I'm not hetero. I AM hetero..quite.  With that said...do I have gay friends?  Yes.  Do I enjoy hanging out with my gay friends?  Yes.  Does it make me uncomfortable being in their environment?  Absolutely not.  Some of my closest friends I turn to are gay..and I'm quite OK with that.  Here's a line from a song.."I knew he was different in his sexuality..I went to his parties as a straight minority..It never seemed a threat to my masculinity..He only introduced me to a wider reality." 

Without tooting my horn...that's about the confidence I have in me being able to socialize with whoever...respect whoever..and hopefully get the same respect back from whoever.  I'm also confident enough to say that Brad Pitt is a damn good looking man.

I do realize some of this is also about what I write or songs that I post on my Facebook wall.  I have a soft side.  I'm in touch with my inner self.  That doesn't mean I'm craving men..no offense guys. Just being me.

I hope that answers the question.  However, I really do have soft skin..I digress.  Next question..

Lady sitting in the middle:

OK..you say you're not gay.  However, you have been called a "pretty boy".  How do you respond to that comment?

Kevin:

Simple..I take pride in the way I look when I'm out in public.  Trust me..its not the same look I have when I wake up in the morning...or at home hanging with my kids or my doggie.  They are the lucky ones..to see me for who I really am. (laughs)

Seriously, the hair thing...takes me about 15 seconds to do. YES..15 seconds.  I swear. Kids can verify. A dab of gel..and a simple massage of the head..and the hair is done in no more than 15 seconds..really.  From the type I start the shower..to the time I'm ready to leave the house...20 minutes tops.

Do I want to look my best when going out "out"?  Absolutely.  Who doesn't.  However, when I go Krogering..I'll put a ball cap on..backwards..before getting decked out. 

Next question..

Gentleman in the middle:

What do you do for fun..as in YOUR time?

Kevin: 

Right now..my Friday nights..during the summer is coed softball.  That's my time..and my time to hang with some close friends.  Been doing that gig for the last 10 years.  Good times. 

My other thing..live music.  I've got friends who play locally and I go see them every chance I get.  That whole atmosphere is just electric.  Good music, good people and of course good beer.  Its just another to hang out with people that you don't see every day.  Good stuff.

Next question..

Lady sitting to my left:

Can you clarify your current personal status?

Kevin:

That's easy.  Just check my Facebook.

Same lady sitting to my left:

We did...it doesn't say.

Kevin:

Oh yeah..there are some things I'd like to keep private.

Same lady sitting to my left:

Are we to take that as you are indeed in a relationship?

Kevin:

OK..for the record..I am not in a relationship.  The last one ended a few months ago (and continued thanks to those who still questioned me about that one).  Right now..my focus is me.  This is one time that it's "all about me".  I mean that in a good way.  I'm trying to find me..and get me going in the right direction.  I've been blessed to get reconnected with those from my past. That's been special.

Are there some more special than others?  Absolutely.  They know who they are.  I can't imagine them not in my life.

I'm also blessed with my core group of friends that I continously lean on for any and everything.  They're the best.  I do enjoy meeting new people..and establishing friendships with them.  You really can never have too many friends.

With all that said..I'm hoping that I am as much of a friend to them as they are too me.  I believe in karma..and really try to practice good karma. 

Same lady sitting to my left:

Will there be another relationship? 

Kevin:

I'm sure there will be. Its just not my immediate need. I feel I'm very forthcoming with everyone who I cross paths with. That's not saying that I have lots of people to chose from..for relationships. Its saying that I'm about having friends..good friends..having fun..and enjoying what life plops in my lap.

When the time comes for the next relationship.."she" and I will know it. 

Thank you all for coming out. I hope this clears up some things. We'll do this again real soon. Thank you.

Narrator:

This concludes Kevin's press conference. We'll see you the next time.  Good night everyone.

Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

My Spiritual Side..Part IV

Greetings to all the HALE'S ANGELS.  Wish you guys nothing but FUN, SUN and SAFETY on this FOURTH.  Wherever you are..live it up and enjoy it with whoever you're with. 

Its been a while since my last blog..but I had some good reasons.  Basically I was taking in everything I was experiencing..with church (yes, I did do a church service..and loved it), friends, reconnecting with people that were important from my past..and simply listening to everything I heard and felt.  Then..I just sync'd it up with some spiritual thinking and feeling..and this is where I'm at right now.

From the outside looking in..

Despite its origins, spirituality is not just a religious idea. We can define anybody who is getting in touch with their spiritual side to be anyone who believes in gaining knowledge, growing and developing within. I feel like I'm more aware to the point of exactitude. I feel I'm able to examine strengths and weaknesses with honesty and without anxiety. I'm accepting myself as unique, capable, flawed, and yet incomplete. Because the perfect person does not exist, spiritual people are not anxious about their imperfections; they are comfortable in their own skin.

The bigger picture..from the inside looking out.

We associate spirituality as a state of harmony with the world. People who are spiritual tend to see themselves as part of the bigger picture. They are happy in the presence of others; they are happy being with themselves. Spirituality can mean different things to people of different faiths. But the essence of spirituality remains the same for all people of the world - a sense of contentment with their position in the world.

When you are feeling spiritual, you can handle pretty much anything. Someone with a keen spiritual side is able to draw strength from any situation or event. You should think of spirituality as the treasure chest of all that is good and vibrant about you. It is, therefore, imperative to be spiritual if you desire any level of personal success. People who are spiritual take a philosophical attitude to things such as change, for they understand that change is essential for growth and development.

The spiritual individual is keenly optimistic and yet realistic. Being spiritual involves getting the balance right between their hopes and desires and skill sets and abilities. As a spiritual individual, you will not become disheartened with negative self appraisal; instead you will see it as an opportunity to improve.

My initial conclusions..

Develop optimism - optimists are self-disciplined and persistent in what they want to achieve in their life. Optimists plan and take action to move forward. They constantly learn about how to get better at their skills. Their self-confidence helps them to look for solutions and leads them to success in their goals. If you are pessimistic it is time you shed your pessimistic attitude and develop optimism in its place. There is no place in the world of success for negative 'tudes. Think about what you can do rather than what you cannot.

This is me as of July 4, 2010.  Give me your two-cents.  Its always welcomed..

Happy Holiday!

Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

Today for Terry..

Happy Wednesday to all my ANGELS.  Today has a special place in my heart.  One of my bestest buddies for life..Terry Cunningham..would be celebrating his 41st birthday.  Sadly for us..he was gone too soon.  Terry died in August 2006 after battling cancer. 

Terry had one of the biggest impacts on my life.  It was always fun and entertaining with him.  A night out with Terry..club'n, picnic'n or some sport event..was going to be an experience.  I have to admit..before Terry came along..I had a bit of a shy side (yes, I really did).  That went out the window quick..as Terry just made you go with it.  Life was good and fun with that cat.  I miss him every day!

Prior to the time of his passing..I was not able to spend much time with him.  Some of it was out of respect for what he was going through..allowing his family total access to him.  Some was a busy schedule on my part.  And some was simply thinking he was going to beat this...and we'd pick up right where we left off.  Was I wrong.  And I've regretted the lack of time we spent together prior to his passing. 

I think I've made my peace with the RiverCity Redneck..as he would like to call himself.  His classic line to me..."Kevin, I bet there ain't a redneck bone in your body?"  Me.."No, there's not."  Terry.."Want one?"  He knows what he means to me...and I know I'm cool with him.  Miss you, Terry.


I want to share with you a blog that his fiance' put together at the time of his passing.  You can read my comments following hers.

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For those who don't know yet, Terry fought for 18 hours off the vent and we lost him at 6:39 AM on August 24th.(Nashville time). Funeral arrangments will be held at Bosse Funeral Home on 1355 Ellison Ave. at Barret. Visitation will be Sunday from noon to 8pm and Monday from 9:00 am to 1:00pm with a service at 1:00. In keeping with Terry's wishes, while anyone who knows him will be mourning, Terry wanted his funeral to be a party.....so were asking everyone to come celebrate his life- not his death. Bring your Terry attitude, your Terry stories, and your Terry memorabilia. Keep the blogs coming, these are great for all who love him and for his girls to read when the age is right. Words can't express how deeply they touch me! Thank you!


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posted by Topline at 12:10 PM on Aug 25, 2006


Kevin Hale said...

It's Sunday evening (8/27). I was able to spend time at the funeral home with Terry's family and friends. Lots of laughs...lots of tears...lots of stories. It's incredible to actually see what kind of impact Terry had on us.

As I sit here writing this...I'm going through a lot of emotions. I'm hurting, confused, feelings of guilt, lots of things that made me realized that I should have been there for him so much more than I was. Truth is...I really thought this was going to pass...that he would beat and win this like other challenges in his life. I'm hurting so much now because I kind of took this thing for granted. How could one of my best friends...probably the most passionate guy..who lived life to it's fullest..fall to an illness? I'm going to struggle for a long time knowing that I should/could have been with him more the last few months...only to think that he would be back to his self in no time.

Fortunately, the family allowed me to spend last Wednesday (8/23) with him (and them) in Nashville. I remember walking into the room...and hearing him say (in my my mind) "where have you been? what took you so long?" I walked over to his side, kissed his head, kneeled down, held his hand, and cried...telling him how much I loved him and that I was sorry for not holding my end of the friendship. I can only hope that he heard me, felt me with him and forgave me. I genuinely loved and cared for him...like no other friend.

Terry, there have been so many things that we shared during our time together. Softball games, our "rasslin" show (the Rivercity Redneck will live on), the weekends, lots of good times. I cherish them all.

To my hero...lots of love,

Kevin

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To this day..the first beer at every picnic..I toast to him.  Happy Birthday, Terry!


Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

My Spiritual Side..Part III

Happy Monday to my ANGELS. Hope everyone’s week has started well…and the rest of the week looks promising. Had a great weekend with the kiddos, family and friends of the family. We did the graduation party thing for Kelsey yesterday. It was a good time.

I’m continuing with my spirituality path…and kinda got sidetracked over the weekend. I had planned to visit a local church Saturday and just take it all in. That got postponed…as I needed to focus my time with the kids and the weekend plans for Kelsey. However, I plan to do the church thing next Saturday. I am really into taking this path…and see where it leads me.

Since I missed the church thing Saturday, I found myself tuning into “church shows” Sunday morning…and just shook my head during most of it.

I do believe some of the shows/preachers messages come from a good place…however, I can’t help to think I’m listening to a “sales pitch”…and to someone who thinks they are larger than life. From the few shows I watched…these were some of my thoughts.

Am I listening to a self proclaimed messiah…or maybe a blasphemes liar?

Am I witnessing some kind of clever hypnotic hoax?

Am I listening to someone speaking in distorted truths?

In no way am I saying that there is no God…or that he’s just a clever man's charade. But if I continued to watch these shows…then I would to start to wonder if God made man or man made God?

Bottom line…I can’t rely on TV for my spiritual growth. I couldn’t shut my mind off enough to listen. It just seemed so phony. I’ll resume my spiritual walk...and keep working on listening and not be so judgmental.

Tell me something I don’t know. Please tell me..



Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

My spiritual side..Part II

Happy Wednesday evening to all my ANGELS. We're officially past the half way point of the week...so it's all good. I'm continuing MY SPIRITUAL SIDE blog that was previously posted. After chatting and doing some reading...one thing is for DAMN SURE. I need to steer clear of negativity...and those who live the cynical life...at least till I find me.

For the record...I think my "friend base" is more of the positive people than negative. I do know of some who bleed cynicism on a daily basis. So today’s blog is about the CYNICAL F*CKS…and how I perceive them. If you’re a RAY OF SUNSHINE on a daily basis…skip the rest of this blog. If you think that it LOOKS LIKE RAIN most days…you might want to continue and see if the shoe fits.

If you think the following...I would suspect you to be of the CYNICAL nature:

• today don't look so bad...compared to tomorrow
• the good ol' days...weren't always that much better
• whatever you do...someone's done it first
• if you can't take it with you...then what's the use
• looks like my brighter side...has gotten a bit darker
• i must have stepped over my four leaf clover
• someone drank my half-filled cup of water

Cynical???  Probably so...pretty damn sure so.  You guys need more love in your life.  Life, emotion and an open-mind are the first steps in nurturing your spiritual side...so I'm to understand.

My thinking...advice...live your day to its fullest.  Show some emotion during the day.  It really is OK to cry.  Purge yourself.  As they say in sports...leave it all on the playing field.  Until you see a u-haul on the back of a hearse...its a safe bet you can't take it to the next life.  Until then...I'm really trying to steer clear of you guys.  No offense.  I've been there and done that.  I'm just ready to do more..



Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

My spiritual side..Part I

Happy Early Wednesday morning to all my ANGELS.  Hope all is well as we enter the middle of the week.  This blog is going to touch on a side of me that I know exists...but am really interested in pursuing more of it.  I'm talking about my spiritual side. 

In the past 10 years...I've dealt with personal losses.  Lost family and friends...and often found myself asking why?  I also questioned my faith...and my spirituality.  In God I do trust...but during the early part of the last 10 years...I tend to fear Him more than I believed in Him.  I oftened wanted the world to stop spinning around just so I could get off. I've come around a lot lately...and ready to take the next steps to finding out more of me and how I tick. 

I've had some conversations with those who I know are "full of it"...spirituality, that is.  And I mean that in a good way.  Here's my quick thinking of how I do this..

Getting in touch with your spiritual side involves examining your strengths and weaknesses with honesty.

This should enable me to develop within, by accepting myself as unique and capable, yet not anxious about my imperfections. It should make me feel comfortable in my own skin.

Spirituality is associated with peace and harmony.

My take…spiritual people tend to be content and happy in the presence of others and comfortable being with themselves.

Someone with a keen spiritual side is able to handle pretty much anything. They draw strength from any situation or event, in their desire for personal success and for growth and development.

The spiritual person is realistic in life yet optimistic. It is important to get the right balance between your hopes and desires and using your skills and abilities as an opportunity to improve yourself.

Planning ahead and being self-disciplined and persistent in what I want to achieve in my life improves self-confidence. This in turn should help me find solutions which should lead success. Avoiding negative thoughts and instead think about what I can do rather than what I cannot do...be positive!

The one that I know must happen...is for me to simply shut up and listen. Be open-minded to what is being said..and see how the words/thoughts can be incorporated into my life.  I will officially begin the quest Saturday, June 12 (thanks MK).  I'm going to embark on a notion and run with it.

Stay tuned.



Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

Been there..done that..in a whole new way of thinking.

Happy Saturday to all my ANGELS.  Its another warm day..but fun is in the air.  Going to get out and enjoy some time with friends and my daughter Claire at a local church picnic.  The true way to identify that summer is here.  In the mean time..sitting here surfing the TV channels and something got me to thinking about the notion of a past life.  Here's my two-cents..

Many people believe they have lived before..their soul has lived and died in other physical bodies. You may even believe your past lives influence your present life. Do you believe you have earned your current circumstances with previous behavior? Do you intuit karmic credits and deficits that shape you? What can you discern from your soul?

If you sense time isn't linear or chronological, you may choose to view it as a spiral or infinite. If so, you may sense it surrounds you with everything happening simultaneously. You begin to understand how different kinds of information can be accessed and reviewed where you are. Learning then takes exciting twists and turns.

Some people believe karma is created and influenced with each action. It isn't necessarily a punishment for things you did in this life or others. What if you could alter the nature of your karma by regressing back and healing or resolving things? You would then sense value in each reflection. If you were to delve into what seem to be your past lives, this may offer you proof of reincarnation. Is it time to test yourself or, open your mind wider?

Exploring your views may trigger dreams that begin to unlock past life memories. Objects and symbols that stand out in dreams can also begin to uncover clues related to past identities. Would you be willing to learn more about who you are?  YES for me.

Let me know your thoughts..


Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

Online conversations allows you..

Happy Sunday night to all my ANGELS.  It has rained all day here in the VILLE...and the forecast is basically wet all week.  It is what it is.  This next blog is going to raise the question/concerns with the new way of finding the next big thing..

I am talking about online dating, of course..

When the phenomenon of online dating sites started several years ago, they were a haven for perverts, sexual predators, nerds, and weirdo’s of assorted varieties came in both sexes, all sizes, and all ages…as did, liars and cheaters all of the online dating horror is gone.

That is just no longer the case. The online dating stigma is gone. Online dating has gone main stream and is, not only acceptable, but expected. Online dating has become the primary tool of single people of all ages to generate an interesting and rewarding social life. But if you are still worried about online dating sites there are companies out there to do online dating background check to make sure the person you just met is who they said they are and not some crazed crazy.

No matter what your age, height, weight or physical appearance, there are thousands of people out there eager to meet you and eager for your company…whether short-term or long-term relationships are what you want. If you have found yourself suddenly “on-the-market” again after a relationship has dissolved or are just too busy with your work to spend a lot of time looking for a person to keep you company, online dating sites can open the door to the dating scene for you.

Let us face it…we are busy…and maybe a bit lazy. We just simply do not have the time, the energy, or the financial where-with-all to date several nights each week while we look for the “one” online dating works. Why not make use of such a useful tool for our social and personal lives as well? You could find the love of your life. At the very least, you will meet some interesting people and possibly make some lasting friendships on an online dating network…and that would include Facebook or MySpace.

I used to be a critic of the “online dating” thing…but I kind of stand corrected. I really do think the online conversations allow you to get to know the most important part of someone…the inner person. Online conversation allows you to ask all types of questions…and better yet…allows you to read and understand their responses. There are no physical interference or physical blinding of your interpretations. I’ve gotten to know a lot of people on Facebook…and fortunately for me…I’ve been able to determine via chatting whether or not I would even want to proceed with a face-to-face. Yes to a few…no to a lot. HOWEVER…I’m sure that works both ways…as I can accept the fact that I’m not appealing to everyone.

At my age…I’ve “been there done that” with most things. I’m as open-minded now as ever. One of my past blogs talked about fate/destiny. I think fate/destiny could fall into your lap via the online thing.

If you have experiences with the online thing…good or bad…please share.


Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

Nobody's Perfect..well maybe not.

OK, Ville. The rain is gone, and the weather is awesome, lots of sun. Hope you’re Monday has gone good. This next blog takes on something that I think we all strive or wish to be, yet haven’t quite figured out how. I started to do my RANDOM iTUNES songs for my page and the first one was NOBODY’S PERFECT by Mike and The Mechanics. THEN..I viewed some interesting info on the tube and internet that made me realize, maybe PERFECTION can be reality. You gotta love when the topic falls in your lap.

The perfect man, Human, to clarify.

To begin, this is a man who abides by the rules of the universe. One who knows truth, one who doesn’t question, doesn’t look for answers, and has all answers. Sounds much like a God and in essence the idea of a God to humans is one much like a human and I wonder why that is. All we know is what we’ve seen on Earth. Our race is shaped from it. We may think at times that we are perfect, but there is so much more to excellence. It is essentially infinite, limited only by our physical bounds. But this isn't something explored completely and people have a tendency to think they know the limit. They are skeptics though. We must be aware that our perception is limited, that reality isn't always what it seems.

The perfect human understands his reality. He has to and we should. All that we see as art, as aesthetic, is just applied excellence. People always have to train to be the best at something. No one is born excellent. Some are born closer to and have an easier time acquiring skill, but unless a person is physically limited, I believe most can be excellent. So, to think of perfection as something unnatural or Godly, would be to misperceive the reality of the matter.

What I’m trying to spell out is that there is a truth to the occurrence of all that happens outside of our perception, a debatable statement, but I'm taking a stance here. As one looks closer at any object, as one physically gets nearer to an object, one will notice that it only gets more and more complex. And to study, to make something a study means quite literally to analyze. And here I come back to aesthetics, which is the heart of what the perfect human is. And the aesthetic of a study would be trying to get as close to complete knowledge of a field as one can possibly get. The more time we spend studying anything, the closer we get, the more we know about and the better we are at understanding whatever it may be, basketball, the guitar, or even a rock on the ground. Of course we have limitations, we can't know everything there is to know, but I wish to leave this thought to a different conversation.

The perfect human is an aesthetic being, a being of excellence. But if man wants to become the perfect human, he can’t start there. Naturally he must build himself to that point. And to get better, means to increase one’s ability to perform an amount of work in a given amount of time. This is a physical interpretation, but informally, I’ll say that getting better is simply increasing the amount of knowledge one has for a field and utilizing it for an advantageous effect. To be a perfect human we’ll have to get better at things. And the closer one gets to an object or a field, the more information one can gather from it and then in turn utilize that information in some form. The closer a person gets to something, the better able they are to see it and react. I know I’m being redundant and I apologize, but it’s crucial that this point be solidified here.

There is a science to our relation with the world. How we learn, how we perceive is all connected to how well we interact with it all. Each of us has a life, our own life, our own little expanse in space. We own this territory, our bodies, like no other. And understanding this, we should respect ourselves as if we were a slave to ourselves, as if we weren’t our property. If respect is to mean anything, it must be directed at oneself before anything else. To get better, to be Perfect, we’ll have to work to get at what we truly are. This is essential before we can know how to interact with everything we will come across.

The perfect human therefore, will know how to deal with any situation. He will understand objects inside and out. He will nonetheless understand his existence, his birth, the duration of his life and his death. These are what make up existence. But the perfect human is also something that can be felt, I believe. I can talk of how to systematically define what perfect means, what a human is and how these terms can relate to one another, but to an extent, most people who’ve lived more than 20 years, know how to perceive.

I feel that if I were to see the perfect man or a man closer to perfection than any other, I would know him as such without having previously defined all the terms needed to know such a thing. I feel there are ways that the perfect man functions that would stand out because everything he would do would be perfect – controlled, refined, aesthetic. And I evoke this because I feel it is important to acknowledge the other side of our perception. It is a part of who we are naturally. And the perfect man would have aspects that are born of the natural world and not of the scientific world – that is not to set science and nature as opposites. The perfect human would be cool and elegant. The perfect human would know how to carry himself; he would know how to eat properly. He would know what to do and where to go. He would dress perfectly and he would speak perfectly. And each of these are debatable as far as perfection is concerned - what is the perfect way to dress? So to put it better, a perfect man or a more perfect man would know himself. He would have built his identity and so he would have considered how to do everything it is that he does and taken all to the highest level of aesthetic possible for him.

Getting anywhere, in a sense, is much like walking a path and when we walk a path we do so in a direction. If we can see the end of our path and that is the destination we wish to get to, then we have direction, we have a goal and we know how to accomplish it. If we cannot see anything at the end of the road, then we are lost. The difference here is that we aren't on a road, we are in a more complex situation here that we deem Life. And in life, we define our terms, we build our reality - largely. So we have the benefit here of having the ability to make perfection a goal and a destination.

The perfect human is a different being for us all. Our lives precede our perception. We are all built up from the ground - the ground being our birth. And as we encounter all the aspects of the world, we add definitions to our minds concerning everything - archetypes. That being the case, everyone's archetypes will naturally be different, to an extent, from every other human being and as such they will define the perfect man differently. But there are things I think we can all agree on as being good, as being the right thing to do. There are qualities to people that we find admirable and there is a reason for that. We have reasons for admiring traits in each other.

So, what, to you, is the perfect human being? Can we come to a conclusion about this? Will we have to define our morality first? Should we try to define a perfect man, a Jesus? Or is this something that as a society of individuals, we will never completely agree upon?

I know this blog is heavy on the mind.  It was for me.  Even after proofreading and revising a dozen times, I still have THOUGHTS on this top.  I'll leave it as it is for now.  I invite others to expand this thought.

Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

Thoughts on Adoption Reunions..

Just some thinking to words on this rainy/stormy Saturday night.  Before I go any farther..I want to say THANKS AGAIN for the birthday wishes.  Very much appreciated.  Moving on..I caught the backend of an adoption reunion story (TV) that didn't seem to have a happy ending.  Thought I share my two-cents worth of thoughts..

We all know that reunions between birth parents and adoptees don’t always go smoothly or last the distance. But why is it that relationships between biologically related people are so difficult and take so much work?

I came across a blog post which addresses this sensitive subject. In her post..she reviews a book by David Jones entitled “My Father’s House”..an adoption memoir written twenty odd years ago. In this book..a couple of thought-provoking ideas are raised.

The overall theme is that blood is not thicker than water..that being genetically related does not guarantee acceptance or bonding. Jones describes a practice in ancient Roman times when a man who sired (always wanted to use sired in a blog..so masculine) a child had to have that child placed at his feet after birth..so that he could pick it up and “bond” or adopt it as his own. Without this happening..the father has not committed himself to being the father of that child.

Jones goes on to align adoption with marriage. In marriage..each person chooses the other and makes a commitment to a relationship. In adoption..there is also choice and an agreement to commit to an ongoing relationship.

Jones’ message is clear. When parents and children are forced apart by adoption..the “bond”..albeit biological..has been broken and is not strong enough to ensure a connection when these parties meet later on in life. He believes that the reason that adoptees see their adoptive parents as their “real” parents is because of the choice factor..despite it being one-way rather than two-way.

This perspective may evoke some heated debate. Is Jones mainly speaking about birth fathers who don’t carry the grief and loss that birth mothers do? And how does he explain the really strong relationships between separated families wen they are finally reunited? And what about the myriad of other factors that come into play when families affected by adoption come together?

For those adoptees who struggle with the question about why their reunions haven’t succeeded..such a theory makes perfect sense. Perhaps it is a chink of the puzzle that forms the complex picture of adoption.


Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

Facebook/Twitter updates that annoy me..

I'm a big fan of Facebook..not so much Twitter..for the simple fact of being able to reconnect with old friends..classmates.and to be able to stay in the loop of family who live too far to visit on a regular basis.  Like the rest of the Facebook/Twitter community..I sometimes go a little crazy with my thoughts..rants..photos..happy moments..sad times.  It is the tool to "vent" or "share"..if you will.  Once you hit the SHARE button..it is kind of like that moment of exhaling.  With that said..let me rant about some of the most annoying things people do on Facebook and/or Twitter.  To each their own..but this is my blog..therefore its MY RANT.  :-)

Top 5 Most Annoying Things People Do..

1. NO PROFILE PHOTO. If you don't have a photo of you..not your cat..or dog..or fish..or logo..I probably won't follow or join you. FB/Twitter is about developing relationships with people..not logos or cats.
2. YOUR ID IS A COMPANY NAME. Again..its about relationships with people..not companies. If you have a company name..that account should only be used to broadcast company updates or have very company specific discussions. My personal preference is to have relationships with people.
3. ALL BROADCAST..NO CONVERSATION. If you have a stream of updates that does not include any replies..then I probably won't follow you. You're just not interesting. You're using FB/Twitter just to broadcast your messages without interaction.
4. FOLLOW-ME-BACK-NAZIS. These are the people that follow thousands of people hoping that some will follow them back. These are the same people that get mad at you..and sometimes send you harassing messages if you don't follow them back. Look..just because you follow me does not mean I want to follow you. In fact..I only follow back about half the people that follow me. I look at your profile..check your recent messages and profile..and decide if what you are saying is useful to me. Not useful..no follow. Sorry..stop harassing me! You can unfollow me if you like.
5. TMI..aka TOO MUCH INFORMATION.  Look..I like how FB/Twitter is a combination of some business and some personal info..so I can get to know people on both levels. But there are limits. I do not care if the burrito you ate for lunch is too spicy. I do not care if your cat is feeling sad. I do not care if your computer is slow. I do care where you are hanging out..if you are attending a cool event..if there is a major development in your life..wedding..baby..moving..job..and if you find an article online that is particularly interesting. Try to think about if your status messages are interesting..at all.

That's my five for now.  Some people might think that having a blog..and asking people to join my fan page makes me a hypocrite.  Might..might not.  You can decide for yourself and act accordingly.  Regardless..I do appreciate the people who take time to read my thoughts..and respond accordingly.  Its all good.


Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

Fate..Destiny..Free Will. Choices or not??

I'm a firm believer that things happen for a reason.  I believe in fate and destiny..however..I do acknowledge and respect free will.  I don't believe in coincidences.  There is a rhyme and reason for our walks of live.  Yes..there are times we take the road and eventually get to the fork.  Which way do we go..depends on our current mindset..the people around..lots of things.  We generally are in a position to makes things happen.  However..with things..come circumstances and further choices that eventually get us to where we ultimately are suppose to be.  Which brings me to this question..do we have free will or are we just puppets in a fate and destiny? Well the truth is that it’s a bit of both really.

It is such a fundamental question about our lives..which countless people ask on a daily basis..and yet it is probably one of the things we’ll never know in our non-spiritual forms. I..for one..occasionally wake up bruised and scarred from the events of the previous day. But does that mean that my fate should leave me scarred and always and in a state of disrepair? In fact the opposite is true. If you often wake up dreading the daily grind then maybe it’s about time you stopped fate in it’s tracks. After all..do you want your fate to be that of someone who always wakes up on the wrong side of bed?

With this in mind there are two ways of further looking at this whole argument.

First.is your fate..to you..so mundane that all it involves is the daily slog and nothing more? No enjoyment..no fulfillment..and no satisfaction with your actions? Do you live each day because you have to or is there a deliberate demeanor to which you act? If your fate is sealed..then what more is there for you to do apart from just go with the flow? This would also mean that there is little that can be done about the future except let it happen.

Lets face it..thats not the most productive way to live your life. In my experience..this kind of thinking leads to an innate laziness and a tendency to procrastinate heavily.

The second way to percieve this..is that fate exists but that you are not at its mercy. Fate is a force we cannot control..however we can always determine what we choose to be in this moment. I choose how to perceive where I am right now..and what to do with what has been bestowed on me. I can choose consciously what decisions to make..and do what we feel is right for me. When faced with something..I can choose to deal with it as a challenge and to make the most of it..or to do it half heartedly.

It’s not always easy to choose the latter..in fact..it is always the more difficult of the two. To be productive and proactive is never a quick coast down a hill. It’s more like being on a escalator walking up the stairs..you’re making the effort. And an unseen force is giving you a helping hand.

Fate and destiny..they seem to be synonyms up to a certain point. Questions always arise when one or the other is mentioned. Can we rebel against our own destiny? Can we truly decide the path we want to take in life?

These are questions with no definite or final answer. Nevertheless..everything depends on our determination..our strength to defeat the obstacles we meet on our life's journey.

A lot of successful and driven people in many varied fields confess that fate seems to be against them at the launch of their career. Most of them lived completely different lives before they achieved success..and they are proud to remember those times. It was hard..many successful folks say..but nothing could have held them back as they strove to the best. They also admit that they never dared dream they would be so famous or successful.

All these facts make us wonder whether an apparently pre-established fate can be modified or completely changed. And if we indeed can change fate..how can we demonstrate what we're capable of? Could there be a way to modify the data..which composes the abstract book of life..just as easy as correcting something on a computer? And if that holds true..how do we know that there wasn't a mistake in the first place..and our determination does not do more than merely correct it?

These thoughts and ideas represent suppositions. Nevertheless..since many different people offer suggestions that their lives have changed..this increases our confidence that we can do it too. If we can't control our destiny..we can..at least..contribute to what's happening to us during our everyday existence.

Let's quickly look at the idea of karma concerning fate and destiny. If we treat others the right way..if we are always honest and always mind the truth..perhaps bad fate will go around us..showing us that we can make our own destiny.

On the other hand..we cannot help wondering about the converse. What happens to a person who starts off with a wonderful destiny..but during his or her life commits a series of unpardonable mistakes. Will that destiny change?

Could it be true that we actually get the destiny we deserve? People who suffer tremendously for having lost somebody dear to them or people born with a disease or a handicap will answer with a resounding no. There are a lot of good people in pain..so the theory that we get what we deserve is not always accurate. But what if we have to pay for the errors others committed? Would that make us think deeper before carrying out something we are not really proud of..fearing that some innocent person will pay..in the future..for our actions of the present?

There is no doubt that opinions are split when it comes to such a subject. However..meditating on these kinds of themes help us understand ourselves better and..hopefully..get us closer to appreciating our fate and destiny.


Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

Love is..

My mind is pretty much wide open to most everyday things.  I try to look at the big picture..or alternatives to any item..topic..situation..reality..fantasy.  Just a way to keep my vision as broad as possible.  I was reading a book..and the last paragraph of the chapter was this.

"There comes a point where you just love someone. Not because they are good, or bad, or anything at all. You just love them. It doesn't mean you will be together forever. It doesn't mean you won't hurt each other. It just means you love them. Sometimes in spite of who they are, and sometimes because of who they are. And you know that they love you, sometimes because of who you are, and sometimes in spite of it."

Interesting stuff.  Could be about a family member..an acquaintance..a friend..a lover..or someone who simply is in your thoughts or dreams?  Whoever..or whatever it is..love is always there for you to give..and that can be a good thing.

Love is a very special thing.  A smile..a tear..a soft summer rain.  It has no beginning..it has no end.  But its always best when its with a friend..

Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

Paranormaa can destroyaa..

People who REALLY know me..know of my obsession with the paranormal.  Hey..Fox Mulder (X-Files character) was and is one of my favorite heroes of all-time.  The paranormal can range from alien life..alien sightings..alien abduction..TO..ghost..spirits..other worldly experiences.  Personally..I would like to experience these things that go bump in the night..so i can BUMP BACK.  Maybe I should be careful what I wish for..but to truly know something..is to experience it first hand.  HOWEVER..if I can't experience first hand..find those who have had the opportunity..

For anyone who wonders about paranormal experiences..all they have to do is ask around. Many people have their own personal experiences. Within my circle of family..friends and acquaintances..we’d be surprised by the first-hand stories we hear. I am not a fan of unverified second-hand stories. But when people tell me their own actual experiences..it gets my attention.  I recently heard such a story from a family friend..the experience she had three years ago. My mother conveyed to her friend that I would love to hear this story..so she called me to share it with me.

She lived in a second floor apartment with her husband. Early one night while she was lying in bed with her husband sleeping next to her..she had not yet gone to sleep..when she noticed something outside the bedroom window. A large disk of light..nearly filling the window..rose up like a giant version of the moon. It became stationary..and she heard a buzzing sound. She became completely paralyzed. Her paralysis was so complete she could not wiggle a finger. She tried to awaken her sleeping husband but she was utterly unable to move. She was terrified. She felt an intense pressure..describing it as if something was inside her head trying to remove a part of her skull. This lasted for a couple of minutes when the disk of light moved away from the window and her paralysis ceased. She was frightened and could not sleep all night.

She then recounted an event that happened the previous day before her nighttime encounter. On occasion her job required her to drive to the bank. Usually it took half an hour. That prior day..after taking care of the banking business..while driving back to the office..she noticed something very strange. The clock in her car was over two hours past the time she left the office. Nearly two hours were missing. She hadn’t gone anywhere else..and had no idea where the time went. When she returned to the office late she didn’t give it much thought afterwards.

After her scary paralysis experience..she investigated what happened to her. Only after reading about other people’s similar experiences did she make the connection between her own missing time and the events that transpired the night afterwards. She was convinced aliens visited her. Missing time..paralysis..the disk of light, the feeling of having something implanted or removed are all common elements of the phenomena.

What should we think of her experience? Sleep paralysis combined with a waking hallucination would be a natural explanation. Sleep paralysis is said to replicate some of the alien abduction sensations. During REM sleep (rapid eye movement)..the body is in paralysis. Otherwise the body would fling around during REM sleep repeating the behavior in the dream. When someone awakes from REM sleep..the body might continue this paralysis for a short time while conscious..which would be very disconcerting. Vivid hallucinations often accompany waking from REM sleep.

However..she said she hadn’t gone to sleep yet and was wide-awake. Plus we have the baffling missing time. IF it was not sleep paralysis..was it a paranormal event? Actual aliens? We don’t know. I can see why extraterrestrial intervention seems like the logical explanation for these phenomena. We assume aliens would have almost magical abilities with their technology. Perhaps a bit too magical.

Extraterrestrials seem to be invisible at will. They can enter houses with closed windows and touch an individual while their spouse sleeps undisturbed in the same bed. Can aliens move in and out of time and space? Sounds more like the behavior of spirits to me. Some say that alien abductions are really out-of-body spirit abductions. A clue is the buzzing sound and paralysis..which are the beginning stages of astral travel. Out-of-body episodes would explain the missing time as well. Was the disk of light a portal to where astral entities dwell?

She was lucky to have this experience. She had a chance..however frightening..to experience something otherworldly. If it was only (still rare) sleep paralysis..such an experience could be a learning experience in the origins of a lot of mythology. If it was a real encounter with aliens or spirits..better yet..THAT would really be a learning experience!

IF you've encountered any type of "other-worldly" experience..please share with me.  I really dig this stuff.  Hey..the TRUTH IS OUT THERE..we just need to be pointed in the right direction.  Maybe our pointers come from something that we're not used to experiencing everyday..


Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

Latest Peeves..

As I filter through my days..I tend to come across things that..depending on my mood..can irked the sh!t out of me.  Here's my latest peeves..

Is it me..or is Mario Lopez on the tube a lot these days?  The boy wonder from Saved By The Bell..the guy is definitely nice on the eyes for the ladies..but come on.  He's on EXTRA..hosting one of those dance shows on MTV..he was a character the last two seasons on NIP/TUCK.  His face is everywhere.  I have nothing against him or his talents..but there has to be a line..even for the ladies..or the not so masculine males.

CSI..all of them.  The overacting skills of David Caruso.  UGGGHHHHH!!

Watching a sporting event..and having the camera pan to the crowd..you'll always find a fan or two..or lots..waving their index finger..proclaiming their team's status as NUMBER ONE.  What if you're a fan of a "not so good team"???  Truth is..not everyone can be number one.  For once..I would like to see someone hold up the right amount of fingers..or a sign that says we're number 19 or 114th in the nation..and be damn proud of it. That would be cool..and the right thing to do.  For example..as a UK basketball fan..I could get away with holding up 8 fingers..since we made the ELITE EIGHT. UL fans..not enough fingers.  Just saying..

If I have to listen to another song that my kids have to play on the radio that says the word "SHAWTY" (or however you spell it) OR..where the singer has to say their name through the song.. "LUDACRIS".  CLICK!!!  There's no hate in the type of song/genre..its every song or genre that has to go to those lengths.  Equal opportunity here..

Definitely don't want to leave politics out of my latest peeve.  Right says WHITE..Left says BLACK.  This CAT is officially changing to INDEPENDENT.

Who can tell me what song these lyrics belong too?
 "Cause when the roof caved in and the truth came out..I just didn't know what to do. But when I become a star..we'll be living so large..I'll do anything for you"



Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

Infidelity..the inner monster?

I recently saw an interview with Elizabeth Edwards..wife of former North Carolina Senator John Edwards..however on her way to being former wife.  The topic was the infidelity by John and the struggles and fallout.  With all the issues in Mrs Edwards life, history of cancer and the infidelity ordeal, I sincerely sympathize and empathize with her.  She's a very strong woman who basically took a knife in the back from Johnny boy.  Infidelity is a serious issue.  You lose faith and trust with your significant other.  It creates all kinds of problems.  Nuff said.  HOWEVER, one of the things that Elizabeth called John..and what some other woman have called their spouses who do the deed..is MONSTER.  No..No..No.  I've got this thing with the media and america, and how they exaggerate issues.  Its a peeve when I hear someone say.."you ALWAYS do that!" or "you NEVER do this!"  Infidelity is a very common thing in america.  But to label these people as MONSTERS..that's a little excessive.

Don't get me wrong..John Edwards is the Charlie Sheen of politics.  John is a sleazy character..which is a prerequisite for a politician.  Good ole karma will come into play..and Johnny Boy will get his.  Trust me..been there done that.  But to use the term 'monster'?  No.  Nor, are most men who do the infidelity thing.  America needs to get a grip about infidelity.  Saddam Hussein was a monster.  Chemical Ali was a monster.  Ted Bundy was a monster.  Infidelity is about middle-age men being horny..not monsters.

I'd like to know what you think..

Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

My Bucket List..

Recently caught some of the movie..The Bucket List..which stars Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman.  Two sensational actors.  I got to thinking..what would I like to do or know prior to me 'kickin the bucket'.  In no particular order..here are some things that I would like to do and/or know before that day.  I did this list of 10 at the top of my head..not a lot of pondering.  Share your quick 'bucket list' with me.

1. I want to know whether we are alone..meaning, is there life outside of planet earth.  I want to believe..
2. Bigfoot..fact or fiction?
3. I'd like to travel to Europe
4. Do a cruise with lots of friends and/or family
5. Want to experience a true ghostly encounter
6. I'd like to get sand between my toes while walking the Hawaiian beach
7. Watch all my kids get married and be apart of every grandchild's life..they need to know about my wisdom and humor!
8. Do stand-up comedy
9. Write a movie script or novel
10. Spend every day..from now to then..shedding a tear and having a laugh..that's living every day!

Holler back with your quick top 10..

Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

"Adult" education..

I tend to wish everyday better than the previous day.  That includes experiencing an event that one ups the previous day.  This is my one up from the previous day. 

Setting..Churchill High School in Canada.  Scenario..pep rally that turns into exotic education. Generally my mindset is to never deny my kids education..but this one goes over the top.

During the pep rally..two teachers (female sitting in chair / male dancing over her) decide to spice up the rally with their version of 'dirty dancing'.  Hey..I can't deny it..i've been part of a lap dance..or two..or ten..whatever.  But to feel the need to similate the deed in front of high school kids blows me away.  This is one time where I wouldn't have believed it if I didn't see it.  You actually see the male teacher put his head in her crotch area.  Unbelievable.  However, if there were future strippers on the bleachers..then this would be a form of education/role modeling.  Whatever..

Seriously, these teachers should be suspended the rest of year..without pay...and seriously be subject to termination.  Hey..so they now have to rely on their night jobs..because they've just put their day jobs in jeopardy. 

The teachers are indeed suspended without pay pending the school/school district investigation.  Click on the TITLE and watch for yourself.






Peace out my HALEYUNNS!

Pet Peevie of the Weekie..

If you live in Louisville..and travel on the Watterson Expressway (east or west) between the airport and Shelbyville Road..you will know what I'm about to say.  My latest PEEVE is regarding the idiots who put the white stripes between each lane on the expressway...THEY LANES ARE UNEVEN.  There is one lane that is literally 1.75 cars wide..3.50 smart car wide (yes, a slight exaggeration..but not by much). With that said..there is at least one lane that is slightly wider than a smart car.  I'm sure quality assurance was not part of the project road plan.  We probably ran out of the millions of dollars that got us to the point so the paint could dry.  We definitely need a do over.  If you drive the expressway and you know what I'm talking about..give me a HALEYEAH!

Ah...feel better.

Peace out my HALE'S ANGELS!

Make Tomorrow Better..

This blog will be one of my real world issues/thoughts.  People who know me know how much I love my kiddos.  Although I share custody..I do my best to keep an eye on their daily routines..always thinking about them getting through their day safely.  With that said..nothing gets my attention more than seeing a child suffer in life.  Whether it is some kind of abuse..some kind of natural disaster (i.e., Haiti)..countries at war..poverty..anything.  No child deserves to suffer.  It breaks my heart to hear or see it.  If we as adults..or even children..can do or say anything to make it better for someone..go for it.  I can do more, as well.  I'm not just talking about kids in other countries.  Maybe its the kid(s) next door.  Be cognizant of what surrounds you.  There's too much sh!t on TV to not let us forget.  I'm sure I'm preaching to the choir.  I know I'm blogging to a lot of good people. 

Listen to the song by clicking on the title MAKE TOMORROW BETTER for some inspiration..




Peace out my HALEYUNNS!