I'm a firm believer that things happen for a reason. I believe in fate and destiny..however..I do acknowledge and respect free will. I don't believe in coincidences. There is a rhyme and reason for our walks of live. Yes..there are times we take the road and eventually get to the fork. Which way do we go..depends on our current mindset..the people around..lots of things. We generally are in a position to makes things happen. However..with things..come circumstances and further choices that eventually get us to where we ultimately are suppose to be. Which brings me to this question..do we have free will or are we just puppets in a fate and destiny? Well the truth is that it’s a bit of both really.
It is such a fundamental question about our lives..which countless people ask on a daily basis..and yet it is probably one of the things we’ll never know in our non-spiritual forms. I..for one..occasionally wake up bruised and scarred from the events of the previous day. But does that mean that my fate should leave me scarred and always and in a state of disrepair? In fact the opposite is true. If you often wake up dreading the daily grind then maybe it’s about time you stopped fate in it’s tracks. After all..do you want your fate to be that of someone who always wakes up on the wrong side of bed?
With this in mind there are two ways of further looking at this whole argument.
First.is your fate..to you..so mundane that all it involves is the daily slog and nothing more? No enjoyment..no fulfillment..and no satisfaction with your actions? Do you live each day because you have to or is there a deliberate demeanor to which you act? If your fate is sealed..then what more is there for you to do apart from just go with the flow? This would also mean that there is little that can be done about the future except let it happen.
Lets face it..thats not the most productive way to live your life. In my experience..this kind of thinking leads to an innate laziness and a tendency to procrastinate heavily.
The second way to percieve this..is that fate exists but that you are not at its mercy. Fate is a force we cannot control..however we can always determine what we choose to be in this moment. I choose how to perceive where I am right now..and what to do with what has been bestowed on me. I can choose consciously what decisions to make..and do what we feel is right for me. When faced with something..I can choose to deal with it as a challenge and to make the most of it..or to do it half heartedly.
It’s not always easy to choose the latter..in fact..it is always the more difficult of the two. To be productive and proactive is never a quick coast down a hill. It’s more like being on a escalator walking up the stairs..you’re making the effort. And an unseen force is giving you a helping hand.
Fate and destiny..they seem to be synonyms up to a certain point. Questions always arise when one or the other is mentioned. Can we rebel against our own destiny? Can we truly decide the path we want to take in life?
These are questions with no definite or final answer. Nevertheless..everything depends on our determination..our strength to defeat the obstacles we meet on our life's journey.
A lot of successful and driven people in many varied fields confess that fate seems to be against them at the launch of their career. Most of them lived completely different lives before they achieved success..and they are proud to remember those times. It was hard..many successful folks say..but nothing could have held them back as they strove to the best. They also admit that they never dared dream they would be so famous or successful.
All these facts make us wonder whether an apparently pre-established fate can be modified or completely changed. And if we indeed can change fate..how can we demonstrate what we're capable of? Could there be a way to modify the data..which composes the abstract book of life..just as easy as correcting something on a computer? And if that holds true..how do we know that there wasn't a mistake in the first place..and our determination does not do more than merely correct it?
These thoughts and ideas represent suppositions. Nevertheless..since many different people offer suggestions that their lives have changed..this increases our confidence that we can do it too. If we can't control our destiny..we can..at least..contribute to what's happening to us during our everyday existence.
Let's quickly look at the idea of karma concerning fate and destiny. If we treat others the right way..if we are always honest and always mind the truth..perhaps bad fate will go around us..showing us that we can make our own destiny.
On the other hand..we cannot help wondering about the converse. What happens to a person who starts off with a wonderful destiny..but during his or her life commits a series of unpardonable mistakes. Will that destiny change?
Could it be true that we actually get the destiny we deserve? People who suffer tremendously for having lost somebody dear to them or people born with a disease or a handicap will answer with a resounding no. There are a lot of good people in pain..so the theory that we get what we deserve is not always accurate. But what if we have to pay for the errors others committed? Would that make us think deeper before carrying out something we are not really proud of..fearing that some innocent person will pay..in the future..for our actions of the present?
There is no doubt that opinions are split when it comes to such a subject. However..meditating on these kinds of themes help us understand ourselves better and..hopefully..get us closer to appreciating our fate and destiny.
Peace out my HALEYUNNS!
Our choices in life seal our destiny. Thus, free will is always the deciding factor. We were given free will at birth by our creator, however, we are constantly influenced by people who touch our lives on a daily basis. Lets explore a simple example. Say our mail is always late, do you accept that as a reality or do you contact the post office and complain about the mailman? You probably don't know the person who delivers your mail but he directly effects your life on a daily basis, therefore, your decision on what action to take changes your life.
ReplyDeleteWow, Kevin, very deep....., I could not agree with you more (must not involve politics!!) on the topic at hand. However, believing everything you said about fate and destiny (which I do believe strongly in) would mean that everything that happens to us..., is actually about us... What I mean by that is (hold on to your seat, this gets complicated), I think things that happen to others (say the person born with a handicap), may not have happened to "them," but to everyone around them.
ReplyDeleteI have said many times, God gives us what we need, not what we want. I don't think you could find a parent around that would say, "I hope I have a child with needs..." However, many parents do indeed have babies with needs (such as a genetic disorder).
Did God do that to the child, or did he give the mother which needs to develop some spiritual aspect of her being (maybe she needs to be less selfish) an avenue for her fulfillment.
I have often thought about you and the loss of your sister..., bad things..... good people. Did that situation make ANYONE else appreciate their family (or anyone else for that matter) more than they did the day before.
Sounds crazy, I know...., but sometimes I think this is the only way I can rationalize why bad things happen to good people, is to think those bad things are for the greater good. That misfortune on someone's part is actually to somehow help someone else on their journey through life. I'm not sure, but I don't think God put us here to entertain ourselves..., I think it a rite of passage, if you will, for the really important life.
After all, can you think of any persons circumstance that does not affect other people? Be it good, or bad? Can any of us say we look at other peoples mistakes or good decisions and don't learn from them. That is not to say I think our destiny relies on other people's situation, I am just saying, soooooo many things come in to play when we are trying to find our path.
Needless to say, I have thought a lot (probably too much) about fate and destiny. As I mentioned earlier, I will try just about anything to rationalize why some things happen.., or why they don't!
The law of attraction - your dominant thoughts are very powerful. like attracts like, and if you can think about what you want in your mind (your dominant thought) you will bring it to yourself.
ReplyDeleteKym..I like the way you think. Thanks for the comment.
ReplyDeleteTotally with Kym here on this one. The problem is we get stuck in thinking that we are powerless when there's so much evidence to the contrary. If you spend your time whining & complaining, bet you'll find more & more to whine & complain about. A peter pan friend of mine (aka 44 y.o player) who got a fling pregnant a couple of years ago told me he never wanted to have kids or the lifestyle & responsibility that comes w/ having kids. BUT, he also told me quite recently, "This is not what I wanted, but I got what I asked for." In other words, behaviors & choices - free will - ALWAYS a factor in our lives. biggest choice? attitude/perception. Peter Pan has grown up a bit & I actually think he's a nicer person to be around now that he has a daughter he loves & adores. Main thing? Don't allow the victim mentality to rule.
ReplyDeleteI am a firm believer in everything happening for a reason. We may not understand what that reason may be at the time, but it shapes who we are and how our lives turn out. I also believe our destiny changes as we change and grow as people. Our destiny may be one thing, but as time progresses and changes are made, our destiny is changed and fate steps in to help. Therefore my mentality on everything happening for a reason. Most of the time, we may never realize that reasoning, there is a higher power at work...fate and destiny....they do go hand in hand. Our fate and destiny shape who we are as individuals and makes us all unique.
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